by Desmond Ray
Catch her attention. In order to make it, you have to write your profile beyond ordinary. There is no recipe for everyone on profiles, it is you who is presented there, so the creativity is all yours. Everyone can write: “male, Sagittarius, seeking an attractive…”, but only you can invent something special, which represents you and is not a boring stereotype.
Skip the details for later! Your personal description must be concise. So try not to waste the allocated for profile space on little details, give only key features of your personality, your interests and desires. If she will find you interesting (and this is one of the main purposes of your profile: to intrigue her), she will ask you about color of your eyes, size of your shoes and everything else that she might feel interesting to know about you. So save the details for her future inquiries.
Address her right. Address her directly as you, your, i.e. by all means avoid writing in third person. If you write (for example): “I am looking for a single woman, with sense of humor, who appreciates order in her life, but for the same time can find a joy in being caught under summer rain,” then she, even if this description fits her perfectly, most likely will pass it by, because, she will feel that this message is addressed to somebody else. Better to write something: “You are kind, cheerful, and passionate. You like to have an order in your life, but sometimes you can get yourself completely and carelessly wet under a warm summer rain.” Although both examples are very close in content, it is much likely that she will recognize herself in your words of the last example, and so you will get much better attention from her and, therefore, more chances for success.
Make her laugh. Yes, this will be a great plus if you will add some element of a joke, a trick, a funny surprise in your profile. Remember, this profile is not going to be reviewed as your promotion dossier, while rewards can go quite beyond any promotion.
Give her some mystery. With every word you wrote just remember: you are writing to a woman. If she will not find any mystery in you, it is bad, because she will look for someone else who will give her that chance. Men without mystery are boring, so you dont want to be among them, you are working on outstanding profile, you want to be above your competition! Make your story half-told, leave blanks, let her to fill gaps with her own imagination, and then she will wink or write to you. The purpose of your profile is to attract attention, you will get it!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Language. The correct writing often is taken as granted, while slips in the grammar are always noticed and taken into consideration. Even if you will write that you are a successful, kind and handsome entrepreneur with a seaside mansion in Malibu who dreams to fill it with kids and pets, two grammar mistakes will give her a serious doubt about your words and your maturity (even if every word your wrote is a word of truth).
No to physical boast. By all means avoid any male self-advertisement (unless your aim is a 1-2 night relationship). There is no need to tell the world how is your stamina in the bedroom: you dont need any silly statements in your profile.
Truth and truth only! You dont want to lie, because lie will be revealed sooner or later. It is just not smart to risk a potentially great relationship with some lie. Be honest in your profile and with your photos, and you will be rewarded.
Brevity is a virtue. That reminds me to finish this article. Just a final word: be brief but avoid omissions and abbreviations. Your profile is not a classified ad (although there is some similarity), you will be given enough space to express yourself. If you will make it in untidy manner, woman may think that so will be your attention to her, and so she will pass you. So make it tidy and to the point. Good luck.
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